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I Don't Have Anything To Say

A blogger without anything to say. Not a great recipe for success, is it? As bloggers, "influencers", or however you want to define us, we constantly feel pressure to come up with the next big thing.  Every post written about how to be a success in the blogging world encourages us to push the boundaries of our niche and be amazingly witty, individual, and innovative with every single thing we put out there, whether it's a tweet, Instagram story, or full autobiography. Sometimes, the pressure of this gets too much. In fact, it's nothing short of exhausting.

It won't be news to any of my regular readers (hello there!) that I haven't been very active in the blogging world of late. I didn't pen a single post for almost an entire month. *gasps* For someone who, throughout the majority of their blogging career, was accustomed to publishing new content twice a week without fail, this was a pretty big downturn. The reason for my silence was in part due to my insane schedule as a PhD student and my complete inability to say no to any work related opportunity (yes, I'm an idiot), but it was also due to the fact that I didn't feel that I had anything to contribute to the blogging community any more.

I didn't have any new, profound life advice to share with you all. I wasn't able to revolutionise how everyone cleans their bathroom like Mrs Hinch. I hadn't dreamed up any tips or hacks that you hadn't already heard 600 times before. I didn't feel like I had a single thing to say. And guess what? I still don't.

But I don't care.

Abbey sits on a park bench wearing a blazer and trousers in autumnal colours, smiling at the camera
Scottie Dog Printed Blazer: Thrifted, originally from Primark (similar)

The reason for my cup of care being well and truly empty can be explained by putting things into context. I don't blog full time. My blog was started as a hobby to document the fun and frivolities of my life as a university graduate nearly 3 years ago. I have been lucky enough that I've been able to incorporate some business-like aspects into my blog, working with brands, going on press trips and being given the opportunity to try out things that I'd never previously imagined. But, as often happens, as success grows, so to do expectations. I put pressure on myself to only produce really "valuable", utterly original content that was going to make a splash, but instead of inspiring me to work harder, it dried up my creativity entirely.

I didn't want to put a post out that just talked about what I was doing that month because I thought it would be boring and that nobody would want to read it. But in doing this, I was moving away from the reason that I wanted to start a blog in the first place, which was to write, to document my life, and to enjoy doing it.

Abbey stands in a park scattered with autumn leaves, her hands in the pockets of her yellow trousers
Cream Camisole: Primark (similar)
Yellow Paperbag Waist Trousers: Unbranded (similar)

This pressure for ultimate originality can come from within, but it can also come from the community. I absolutely love social media for the connections that I have made with people across the globe and for the friendships that I have formed through Twitter, but it can also create an extremely toxic environment. I was nearly at the point of deleting my blog and social media altogether a few weeks ago when the Daily Mail article about the Instagrammers shooting outfit pics in Notting Hill was being dissected.

Bloggers such as myself who take their photos on the streets were being slated left right and centre. Some of these negative judgements were justified. After all, taking photos with your limbs splayed across someone else's car or whilst standing on private property is not acceptable, but there were also several critical tweets going around about how people shouldn't be taking photos on the street anyway because doing so is "boring", "unoriginal", and "overdone."

I have just one thing to say to these critics: Bore off.

A close up of Abbey's yellow paperbag waist trousers and rose gold watch
Meek Grande Rosegold Watch: ADEXE
Photo credits: LifeThroughTSG

Why does every single blog post and every single blog photo have to be something that breaks the mould? Don't get me wrong, I'm not advising that you ditch originality altogether and go around copying and pasting other people's content and blatantly ripping off their ideas. Because that ain't right. Instead, what I am saying is to give yourself (and others!) a break. Unless you're a full time blogger who can dedicate a large swathe of their day to coming up with innovative concepts and amazing ideas that have never been seen before in the blogging world, you can't be expected to be at the cutting edge of newness 24/7.

You can take photos standing on a street corner like 847542 other bloggers have done before you, if that's what floats your boat. You can write a post about nothing more than what you did last weekend, if that's what you want to do. You can even write a post about how you don't have anything to write a post about, if that's something that tickles your fancy. *cough*

Do what makes you happy instead of always putting what others might want to read first. Have faith in the knowledge that you do have something valuable to contribute, even if you are talking about a theme that many others in the blogging community have tackled, or something utterly mundane. This is what I have learned, and it's a mentality that I'll be carrying forward with me as my blogging career progresses.

If you're blogging for you, and loving it, you'll always have something to say.